The Blended Family
(I’d rather call it The Stew Pot Family)

Marriage is beautiful and not easy. Being parents is beautiful and not easy. Blending a family is beautiful and definitely not easy. And I think Blending can give the wrong impression. In modern times Blending can give the idea that we are all to be cut down to a uniform state. That mind-set can lead to unrealistic expectations. I’d rather refer to it as establishing a Stew-Pot Family, maybe that’s because I am Irish. In a stew there are many obvious constituents that are surrounded by delicious gravy. The parts of a family from different parents are better seen as parts that are part of a whole. I would suggest that all those who are about to enter into ‘Blending’ families would greatly benefit by Family Therapy. Even if you are in the middle of ‘blending,’ Therapy can help a lot! What are some of the issues/problems that are unique to Blending a family?

  • How can the Step-PARENT deal with disciplining?
  • What communication patterns/methods are best between households?
  • Are all children supposed to act like they are all biological offspring of the same parents?
  • What can we do about angry ex-spouses?
  • How can I help my children move comfortably between households?
  • When, if ever, should I tell my children ‘the truth‘?
  • As a Step-parent, what is my role?
  • How does the ‘new’ couple deal with the stresses of blending?
  • What hurts my kids the most?